3 Things I’ve Learned about the Fear of Failure

Fear of failure. That’s a huge one isn’t it. It’s universal, we all feel it. There’s simply no escaping it. It’s a limiting belief because if we buy into it it can stop us dead in our tracks from stretching towards what we might feel in our hearts is calling us.

But what about all those fearless souls who end up on the mountain tops of life everyday? Captain top o’ the world, seemingly fearless.

****News alert****

They’re scared too, sometimes scared sh*tless.

Fear is here to stay. It’s our protector and keeps us from doing really stupid things.

Fear of failure is kinda another beast from the same family.  It want’s to protect us but when we are over fearful of trying new things that could stretch us and help us to grow, it could be a damn hindrance.

We most likely won’t die if we try and fail. Usually the worst that can happen is that we fall flat on our face.  By doing that we grow and learn and that’s the best that could happen to us.

So what makes a mountain scaler a mountain scaler if she’s just as full of fear as the rest of us?

Iv’e come up with these 3 points that I think are crucial in making amigos with fear:

  • Accept it. It’s not the big scary monster your 10th grade English teacher made it out to be.
  • Reframe. If we look at failure as a good thing that will teach us each time we try something new, or learn something after trying and failing over and over and over again until we’ve mastered it. That is indeed good grasshopper.
  • Look at it as a feedback mechanism. It informs us, we have the capacity to turn that information over in our mind, THEN decide if fear is over-reacting and holding us back, or if we heed fears warning. The key here is that we don’t have to take the fearful impulse at face value. We decided.

Personally, I’m scared right now, as I type.

I’m not a writer, but daily I’ve been releasing my writing into the big beautiful interwebs. Will there be critics and people who cringe at my spelling, grammar or choice of topics, uh, yeah, probably. Whatevs’. I’m putting myself out there. So slay me. Do you realise how courageous it is to put shitty writing out into the world?

I’m not punching fear in the face, it’s sitting right here next to me, I’ve made it some nice tea because I’ve learn’t it’s not going to go away.

I’ve explained to my fear that although I’d prefer if it went and played a game of solitaire, or looked through the latest Ikea catalog, if it must stay, I will continue.

You see, I’m accepting, reframing and taking it as feedback.

I also read my fear quotes, like these:

You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take. Wayne Gretzky

and

It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default. J.K. Rowling

So I keep on keeping on, and you?

Do you feel like the fear of failure has held you back from exploring your limits?  Comment below, let’s talk.

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