5 simple steps to getting your self-care needs met.

Where do you rate on getting your needs met?

What would you do if you had a whole day to yourself to do whatever floats your boat?  What about half a day, two hours?  Would you even know what to do or where to start?  Do you immediately come up with a long list, or does the question leave you scratching your head?

The term self-care has been getting lots of airplay lately.  In a nutshell, basic self-care would be things like good hygiene and making sure your health care needs are being met.  Up the ladder from that would be paying attention to nutrition and squeezing in some physical fitness.  On top of the pyramid would be mani / pedi’s and beautification in all its dimensions, spa visits, cultural outings, etc… Nestled in between those nooks and crannies are naps, long baths, reading for pleasure, Netflix-a-thons and a myriad of hobbies.

Do some of these seem like distant memories or out of reach because of time or money constraints?

What if I told it costs you not to slow down and take a chill from time to time?  The cost may not be monetary, then again it might.  There are costs associated with relationships and physical/mental health when we are stressed and tired.  We talk about those less than money in the bank, but they’re a currency more precious than gold.

So, I ask you again?  Where do you rate on getting your needs met?  Be honest.

It may seem like that hamster wheel is spinning waaay too fast for you to jump off of and take a little breather, but, if you don’t, you’re gonna burn out.  And I’ve got news for you; no one else is going to schedule that pedicure for you.

Here are 5 simple steps get you back on the track via the feel good train:

  • Decide you’re worth it.  You are.  The number one thing that’s keeping you from doing some of the things you love isn’t the lack of time or money.  It’s putting your needs below everyone else’s.


  • Schedule that sh*t.  Period.  Look forward to it.  Anticipate it.  Talk about it and put it on the calendar. Claim your right to some time and space to yourself, wave that flag then stake it in the friggin’ ground.


  • Do a mental check of any people or things that could potentially get in the way of you and your sacred scheduled playdate with yourself and pre-emptively plug any holes.  The world isn’t going to collapse if you check-out for a bit, but some around you might feel like it will.  Assure them it won’t and let them know they’ll get used to it ;D


  • Do it with a friend, or ask them to keep you accountable.  Whatever it is that feeds your soul, replenishes you and helps you come back all sparkly and new, ask a friend to join you.  You’re much less likely to cancel and keep the date.  On the other hand, if you’re like me and like alone time to be, well, alone, tell a friend what you’re planning.  If you have a history of canceling with yourself, let them know that too.  In other words, ask them to help you and keep you accountable.


  • Follow through on your date with yourself.  You wouldn’t stand your bestie up, would you? Well, don’t do it to yourself either.  Your down time is for recharging, relaxing and having fun, but you’re also sending a strong message to yourself that, as I said to my first point – you’re worth it, in other words, you’re WORTHY.

And by the way, it’s not selfish.  Far from it.  Erase that idea from your mind.

When our cup is full, we can give to others with love and generosity of heart.

I want to hear from you now!  What’s your number one challenge when it comes to carving out some “you” time?  What’s your favorite thing to do when you do?  Post a comment and share your thoughts.

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